(IMAGINATION+COMMUNICATION=”LEADING UP” IN A SANE SYSTEM)
Hello again! I hope you’ve been practicing your Love Zone and Spider Sense skills, for three reasons: first, because it’s wonderful to learn that you can do real magic; second, because “leading up” requires such magic, and third, because if you’re in any relatively sane systems, using your magic will create rapid, exciting changes in your life. When this happens, please write to me about it (firstname.lastname@example.org) so that I can ooh, aah, and write you up in future “Team Profiles.”
Assuming that you’re getting in touch with your magic, let’s talk about exactly how you can begin leading from the rock-bottom of a sane system. Remember, we defined a sane system this way: “Situation X, and its leaders aren’t perfect, but on the whole they’re just, fair, responsive, and well-intentioned.”
Caveat Dux (Leader Beware)
Ironically, a healthy, sane system, with kind and intelligent people above you in the power structure, is the place where you’re at the greatest risk of failing to develop your essential Team leadership skills. Your most probable “failure mode” is falling into the role of the faithful, childlike follower, waiting for your superior to give you assignments, fulfilling those assignments, and getting rewarded with money, privileges, approval, or whatever.
Ducks following their dux.
If the powerful people in Situation X are just and kind, you may go on and on playing Follow the Leader, expecting others to come up with all the right instructions for your life. And nobody has those instructions except you. No parent, mentor, or guru, no matter how inspired or motivational, knows what your superpowers are, or how you’re supposed to save the world. Because you have a natural urge to fulfill your destiny, this means that your leader will eventually disappoint you.
I can’t count the number of clients who’ve told me, “I expect you to give me a clear map of my future and make it easy for me to follow the map.” I’ve also had dozens of people say, “I want to do what you do, so clearly, I’m meant to work with you.”
There are all kinds of problems with this logic. Aside from the fact that I have no idea what your destiny holds, I have high anxiety, generalized bewilderment, and the attention span of a gnat. if you really want to “do what I do,” that doesn’t mean tucking in behind me or anyone else; it means making up your life as you go along, relying completely on your intuition and internal compasses, always terrified of the unknown but constantly sailing into it, having no other captain to chart the course or steer the ship.
So remember this: Your destiny is not to be with the “powerful” people you admire. Your destiny is to be like them.