Seven years ago, my phone rang. It was my best friend Desiree calling who said:
“You ARE Martha Beck.”
“What?” I replied, quite sure that I was still named Pam.
“Turn on Oprah. There is this lady on right now called Martha Beck who is doing exactly what you should be doing with your life.”
I watched the show and was intrigued by this “life coach” named Martha. I rushed out to buy her book, Finding Your Own North Star. I took a couple of her workshops. I started a coaching business. And today, as I gaze up at the URL over my head like Alice in the intro of The Brady Bunch, I see “marthabeck.com.”
Weird? Yes. Random coincidence? Absolutely not.
It is one small example of what happens when you listen to your inner voice (or that of a wise friend) and follow your North Star. We all have an internal navigation system which points to our right life filled with meaningful work, good health, loving relationships and a nice fat bank account.
But somehow, for reasons ranging from wildly dysfunctional childhoods to rigid educational structures to crazy-making corporate environments, we fail to listen to this voice and get stuck thinking things like:
- I would rather commit Hara-kiri than spend one more day in my office
- My body is my enemy
- I am an imposter in my high-paying job and when they find out, they will fire me
- My family is right – I am the crazy uncle that will never get it together
- I have the mate-finding skills of Pamela Anderson
- I am drowning in debt and will never get out
The good news? You are not alone and there is something you can do about it.
Through this miraculous field called life coaching, there are specific tools and exercises for clearing the gunk that gets in the way of your right life. “Roto Rooter for the soul,” as Martha is fond of saying. These tools are not just touchy-feely mumbo jumbo, they are well-researched and tested and they work.
Here on this blog, we want to share these tools, widely, so that you don’t have to stay stuck and unhappy for too long. Wallowing in self-pity can be fun for awhile, but like relatives overstaying their welcome, it gets awkward, strained, uncomfortable and unhealthy.
The format of the blog is the following:
- I will write a couple of articles a month
- As we get on a roll, we will add tips and tools from other coaches and authors, including Martha
- We’ll spotlight Martha’s monthly columns in O Magazine
- We’ll introduce new content from Martha’s forthcoming book Steering by Starlight
- And we will delight in having conversations about these things with YOU, our dear readers, that will educate and inspire us all.
And just to clarify, since you obviously know by now that I am NOT Martha Beck, my name is Pamela Slim. I am a coach, writer and author of the Escape from Cubicle Nation blog. Self-employed for 11 years, I spent 8 years consulting in the guts of Corporate America, in conference rooms and cubicle farms from San Francisco to New York. While I enjoyed my work, I noticed that scores of people were walking around like the living dead, doing their best to pretend that everything was alright while secretly fantasizing about jumping on a desk, throwing a stapler at their boss and screaming a goodbye speech to rival that of Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire. So I trained as a coach (with Martha) and now act as a kind of a modern-day, Web 2.0, Anglo suburban Harriet Tubman for corporate employees.
I look forward to getting to know each of you this year. What fun!
Now it’s your turn: What kinds of things are you dying to discuss on this blog?