Comments on: How to Love the Bad Mother in You http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/ Creating Your Right Life Mon, 20 May 2013 02:36:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Janet http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-88134 Janet Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:25:22 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-88134 Oh, what a beautiful piece!! Parenting was the first thing to bring me to my knees in my life, even after years of working as a nurse in the ER and ICU. At work, I had the backup, protocols, and means to control situations. At home with a colicky new baby, I felt the world caving in on me because I was FAR from being the “perfect” mother and I had to deal with a LOT of negative thinking. BUT, the journey out of fitting into our cultures depiction of motherhood was long and hard, but oh, so beautiful in the long run. Thanks for the reminder of how far I’ve come and how much more amazing life is living on my terms!

]]> By: Denise Green http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-18195 Denise Green Tue, 01 Nov 2011 22:24:01 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-18195 Brilliant.

]]> By: Amy http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1333 Amy Wed, 07 Sep 2011 12:56:29 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1333 So much wisdom and truth here! I can SO relate. My twins are 8 and have more than the usual assortment of challenges because they started out as tiny preemies (24 weeks). My mother is still alive, but we have been estranged for more than a year. I love your idea of mothering myself. Gradually over the past year I’ve been working on moving myself up my priority list — asking for and accepting help, taking time to exercise and eat right, etc. The difference shows up like this: the other night my son was STILL awake at 11:15 pm, scream-singing TA-RA-BOOM-DE-AY while doing somersaults in the bedroom (it’s a good thing his sister is profoundly deaf without her cochlear implant processor on). Instead of screaming with frustration myself, I had enough energy reserves to be able to find the humor in the moment – I just laughed and hugged him, loving the unique, quirky person he is. Then I changed his pull-up, gave him another dose of melatonin and he was asleep in 20 minutes.

]]> By: sarah http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1332 sarah Thu, 18 Aug 2011 20:33:20 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1332 I’m not a mother but this was amazing to read – it actually made me think about how i compare myself to others in terms of my creativity/work as well as being vulnerable to the judgements of others. I love that you are embracing your unique individuality as a mother – and there’s no one rulebook or archetype that’s the ‘right’ one – have to do what works for you! much love xoxo

]]> By: Michelle http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1331 Michelle Tue, 16 Aug 2011 15:23:26 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1331 Like you, I just lost my mom in Apr while I was pregnant with my second child. I have been working with a therapist and trying to let go of ‘perfection’. I was raised Catholic as well, and while I love my faith and find it a great source of strength, I am trying to shed the automatic guilt that comes along with it. All we can ask of ourselves is that we try our best every day and leave it at that. Each day gives a chance to begin anew without regretting what we have done in the past (even if it was just 10 minutes ago).

]]> By: Gretchen Pisano http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1330 Gretchen Pisano Tue, 16 Aug 2011 03:40:29 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1330 Amy,

I agree with Sarah, GORGEOUS HONEST portrayal that welcomes readers to consider not only the inside-out of mothering but where in their lives they’ve been unwilling to admit that they are not thoroughly enjoying what others see as a blessing!

With an 18-year old heading off to college in a few days time, and my twins just rounding the corner on 5 (and me on 45) I can tell you that there are many a day I have found myself brought to my knees by my mothering responsibilities, absolutely certain that THE NANNY herself was heading up my walk with her camera crew to document the debacle of my life AND I am never more at peace than when I am observing my children.

Well done and congratulations!

As a P.S. don’t give the twins Jell-O and leave the room. Not a good plan, even for a second….

]]> By: Jen Trulson http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1329 Jen Trulson Thu, 11 Aug 2011 03:12:59 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1329 I could read this over and over and over again! You say what so many of us feel – and then tell us how to embrace it. Beautiful. xo

]]> By: Amy http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1328 Amy Wed, 10 Aug 2011 02:47:51 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1328 @Jennifer Perfect does not equal happy is a great way to sum up this article! Love it.
@Lori Thank you Lori. You were a huge source of support and encouragement while writing this piece and I am so grateful for it. xoxo

]]> By: Rayme http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1327 Rayme Wed, 10 Aug 2011 02:43:25 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1327 I love it when mothers are honest!

]]> By: Lori Race http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/how-to-love-the-bad-mother-in-you/#comment-1326 Lori Race Wed, 10 Aug 2011 00:49:26 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=1121#comment-1326 This should be a required reading for all new moms!! Actually old moms as well, as I certainly learned some great things as well!! XOXO

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