Comments on: Take Pride: Freedom from Shame & Humiliation

By: Donna

Donna — Mon, 13 May 2013 21:38:07 +0000

I have moments when I celebrate my courage for working to overcome mental illness. I recently re-entered therapy. This time, I feel confident that I will stay the course until I tackle The Beast (whatever it is that I can’t stand to think about in my distant past.) Usually, I run the other way as fast as I can in avoidance. Thanks, Martha, for reminding me how much self-respect and awesome belief in myself I am putting on the line in order to change. Things will only get better!!

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By: Janet

Janet — Thu, 04 Apr 2013 00:34:23 +0000

What a wonderful world it would be if we could find a way to be proud of ourselves every day and also of those we share our lives with. I am going to try my best to focus on the positives and be proud!!!

By: Janine

Janine — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:00:08 +0000

I’m nodding at the sage advice Martha offers and then … BHAM! I am hooked by something that says “Oh, yeah. Crap. That’s me.” There is much that I’m proud of. I know I’m on the right path. And simply surviving used to be quite the accomplishment. And now … “living in quiet desperation rather than …” says so much! Time to summon my courage and forge forward!

Thanks Martha!

By: leaestrella

leaestrella — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 17:28:18 +0000

Thank you Martha. I love your insights!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 15:22:07 +0000

Thank you.

By: Nancy Lundy

Nancy Lundy — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 12:33:37 +0000

For many years, I drank to excess and was always very ashamed of my behaviors…there were many “humiliating” moments in my drinking career…I have not had a drink in nearly five years…Drinking alcohol did not align with my morals and values and I am blessed to have conquered this feat. Thank you, Martha, for opening my heart to celebrate my success. I am so proud of my sobriety. I have overcome many shameful things from my past and have come out the other side a survivor. I am proud of who I am…I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be.

By: Jan

Jan — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 12:20:42 +0000

Dear Martha, many times I read and have connected with your topics and subject matter. Again, I commend you for these profound insights. I am a Gay woman, still struggling at times with shame of being a Gay woman….however, since I came out 20 yrs ago, I have since, reconciled (much better) with this position, knowing this about myself, since I was approx. 8yrs old, and realizing where my sexual orientation was most comfortable at. Yes, I got married, have two wonderful children, all grown up, but it’s been quite a ride, to say the least! Thank you, Martha, for these and many inspirational words of encouragement. Nameste, Jan

By: Cindy L

Cindy L — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 12:07:48 +0000

What a healing essay. As always, Martha, I’m grateful for your wisdom and all that you share. Thank you.

By: Mari

Mari — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 14:59:10 +0000

Great point Joe and I have as well been humiliated in retreats and a few churches. One thing I may add is that if it is possible to speak to the person whom was in the “scolding” stance in private and tell them how you felt when they did this. For me has become good practice to do so and they are more likely to leave you alone. I recently watched an amazing video on TEDS talks. I believe her name is Ann Cuddy, but it is an amazing reminder of how our body stance/language can determine how others see us…I since have practiced and have noticed immediately that it makes a difference if I square up and calmly state my feelings and so forth…..love this topic!