Comments on: Do you really HAVE to do anything? http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65 Martha Beck's Blog Mon, 06 Sep 2010 12:06:36 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Rafael Thornwell http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-1684 Rafael Thornwell Sat, 17 Apr 2010 04:00:52 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-1684 This cool post. I like it. Thanks for sharing article. This cool post. I like it. Thanks for sharing article.

]]> By: fetichismo http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-1103 fetichismo Sat, 18 Jul 2009 20:20:27 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-1103 I should email you about it. I should email you about it.

]]> By: jrose http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-383 jrose Sun, 25 May 2008 22:58:48 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-383 Hi HR, The feed doesn't work if you just paste the URL into Google's feed reader (you get the welcome to WordPress post), but if you click on the big orange feed button at the top of the blog and add it to your Google reader via the Feedburner route, it works fine. Hope that helps :) Hi HR,
The feed doesn’t work if you just paste the URL into Google’s feed reader (you get the welcome to WordPress post), but if you click on the big orange feed button at the top of the blog and add it to your Google reader via the Feedburner route, it works fine.

Hope that helps :)

]]> By: llamafruit http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-366 llamafruit Mon, 19 May 2008 20:13:21 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-366 Hi everyone. I've just found this place and I'm just introducing myself. Hi everyone. I’ve just found this place and I’m just introducing myself.

]]> By: Tim Brownson http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-183 Tim Brownson Thu, 24 Apr 2008 12:15:07 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-183 Excellent article and I'd like to add something else if I may. I find that some clients can't bring themselves to move from saying I need to, have to, must do etc straight to want to, love to etc. There is middle ground that is 'flat' and that is saying I will do, I'm going to etc. It doesn't have the uplifting feeling that the latter phrases have, but it starts to move the client in the right direction. Excellent article and I’d like to add something else if I may.

I find that some clients can’t bring themselves to move from saying I need to, have to, must do etc straight to want to, love to etc. There is middle ground that is ‘flat’ and that is saying I will do, I’m going to etc. It doesn’t have the uplifting feeling that the latter phrases have, but it starts to move the client in the right direction.

]]> By: Self Improvement and Personal Development Link Love, Volume 32 http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2008/04/tweak-your-passwords-to-benefit-from-them.html http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/coincidences-synchronicity-serendipity/trackback/ http://www.improvedlife.ca http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-167 Self Improvement and Personal Development Link Love, Volume 32 http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2008/04/tweak-your-passwords-to-benefit-from-them.html http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/coincidences-synchronicity-serendipity/trackback/ http://www.improvedlife.ca Sat, 19 Apr 2008 20:44:31 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-167 [...] No one is a "slave" to their lives, yet many people act like they are. Martha's post Do you really HAVE to do anything? includes a great method of finding what you want, and then CHOOSING to do [...] [...] No one is a "slave" to their lives, yet many people act like they are. Martha's post Do you really HAVE to do anything? includes a great method of finding what you want, and then CHOOSING to do [...]

]]> By: Deb http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-166 Deb Fri, 18 Apr 2008 23:15:55 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-166 I am amazed how different my attitude is when I see things as a choice rather than a have to or a should. I was raised in a family with very few boundaries. I thought I always had to answer the phone, the door, etc. and especially since my mom died and my dad has called sometimes 20 times a day. I have allowed him to treat me with disrespect and abuse me. Well, not gonna take it anymore! I DON"T have to answer the phone and when I CHOOSE to do so, I can say NO. If he abuses me verbally, I can hang up. At first I had alot of guilt but I have begun to love and respect myself more and the guilt is much less. I am amazed how different my attitude is when I see things as a choice rather than a have to or a should. I was raised in a family with very few boundaries. I thought I always had to answer the phone, the door, etc. and especially since my mom died and my dad has called sometimes 20 times a day. I have allowed him to treat me with disrespect and abuse me. Well, not gonna take it anymore! I DON”T have to answer the phone and when I CHOOSE to do so, I can say NO. If he abuses me verbally, I can hang up. At first I had alot of guilt but I have begun to love and respect myself more and the guilt is much less.

]]> By: HR Wench http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-164 HR Wench Fri, 18 Apr 2008 01:34:01 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-164 The feed on this site doesn't seem to be working. I added it to my Google Reader but it is not updating and only shows one post (the "welcome to WordPress" post). I even tried unsubscribing and resubscribing. Maybe it is just me? --- Hey HRW! Nice to see you here. I am checking into it and hopefully we can fix soon. Thanks! -Pam The feed on this site doesn’t seem to be working. I added it to my Google Reader but it is not updating and only shows one post (the “welcome to WordPress” post). I even tried unsubscribing and resubscribing. Maybe it is just me?

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Hey HRW! Nice to see you here. I am checking into it and hopefully we can fix soon. Thanks!

-Pam

]]> By: Carol L. Skolnick, Clear Life Solutions http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-163 Carol L. Skolnick, Clear Life Solutions Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:55:42 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-163 Yes! The questioned mind is the infinite mind. I "have to" do my tax prep, is that true? No, it's not...I always have the choice of not doing it if I'm willing to pay the price afterwards. I want to do my tax prep is truer, and in fact I got an extension this year so that I can fulfill this desire sanely. What I want, it turns out, is not merely taxes that are filed and done with for the year, but a sane life, peace of mind, space to do other things that also enhance my life. What I want is balance, and a mind that continually goes to "I have to" is decidedly unbalanced, not creative, in short, imprisoned and insane. Yes! The questioned mind is the infinite mind. I “have to” do my tax prep, is that true? No, it’s not…I always have the choice of not doing it if I’m willing to pay the price afterwards. I want to do my tax prep is truer, and in fact I got an extension this year so that I can fulfill this desire sanely. What I want, it turns out, is not merely taxes that are filed and done with for the year, but a sane life, peace of mind, space to do other things that also enhance my life. What I want is balance, and a mind that continually goes to “I have to” is decidedly unbalanced, not creative, in short, imprisoned and insane.

]]> By: Sheila http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-162 Sheila Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:47:26 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=65#comment-162 Unlimited choices - what a concept. So it's better to say "I want my family to wear clean clothes" instead of "I HAVE TO do laundry". "I want my house to be clean" instead of "I HAVE TO clean my house". "I want to use my car to get around" instead of "I HAVE TO spend $60 to fill my gas tank". "I want to be able to button these pants" instead of "I HAVE TO drop weight". It IS a little easier to swallow! It's also hell to admit that I'm merely human and not infalible. I can do this. Unlimited choices – what a concept. So it’s better to say “I want my family to wear clean clothes” instead of “I HAVE TO do laundry”. “I want my house to be clean” instead of “I HAVE TO clean my house”. “I want to use my car to get around” instead of “I HAVE TO spend $60 to fill my gas tank”. “I want to be able to button these pants” instead of “I HAVE TO drop weight”. It IS a little easier to swallow! It’s also hell to admit that I’m merely human and not infalible. I can do this.

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