Comments on: Is life just one damn thing after another? http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70 Martha Beck's Blog Mon, 06 Sep 2010 12:06:36 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Bea http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-1785 Bea Thu, 06 May 2010 06:17:30 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-1785 Hi, I've been feeling a little desparate after patiently healing and waiting for almost 5 years now since my last relationship. I googled you Martha for advice on 'attracting your soulmate'--and my name just happens to be Beatrice! haha, I guess someone IS listening to my pleas for help. Thanks for sharing your gifts with the world. You are my favorite author! Hi, I’ve been feeling a little desparate after patiently healing and waiting for almost 5 years now since my last relationship. I googled you Martha for advice on ‘attracting your soulmate’–and my name just happens to be Beatrice! haha, I guess someone IS listening to my pleas for help. Thanks for sharing your gifts with the world. You are my favorite author!

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]]> By: Barbara Monroe http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-421 Barbara Monroe Sun, 29 Jun 2008 22:04:57 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-421 One damn thing after another...for 57 years! I thought finally my husband and I had made it. I found my soul mate by just envisioning him 20 years ago. I envisioned building our dream home and it became a reality 10 years ago, though pretty much on a shoe string. Then after my husband had a heart attack and we were both laid off, I envisioned us starting our own construction company. Each year we had exponential growth. Then, even though the voices were warning me, the business hit a wall. It was due to many factors, my health, bad decisions, even worse, bad clients. The stress is overwhelming. Though the business afforded us many things over the years, it began to envelop our whole lives, eating us away. It slowly started to erode my health. I suffered a grand mal seizure a year ago and many smaller ones since then. Depression set in, exhaustion, etc. We are broke. I know we have the tools to start over, but in your late 50's it is not so easy. I watched your show on the Laws of Attraction and have had many emails on the same. I know this! I've known this all my life. Wake Up, I told myself. For the first time in my life I feel so despondent. My children, who I've supported in so many ways all their lives, are apathetic. I still give and give emotionally with not much in return. After watching your show, I made the vision board on a Friday as my husband watched me. The next day an old friend and ex-employer of my husband called. He had a job opening for a superintendent. Of course, my husband wanted to give it to his brother! Ugh, we need this so badly! I don't want to be selfish, but wake up, mister. In his defence, we are always giving, never taking. Right now he is watching the show. He also has the power to do this. I know this setback we have is to make us stop this chaos we have created before it kills us. What good is this business we have if it will only put us in the grave? I want my life back, I want my health back. I don't want to win a lottery or have millions of dollars, never did. I want peace, health, happiness. I want to be able to express myself for the good. I want to be able to impart my knowledge, my ancient knowledge, to others. I have power that I have surpressed for many years to help others. To me, to work with children in a peaceful setting teaching English in Italy, would be wonderful. Maybe I'm idealistic. But right now I don't even have the money to get through the next month. Women have power. Women know what is right from wrong. But it is surpressed from the time they are little. It is so sad. They seem to think the answers are from the opposite sex. I'm not saying that I dislike men, I've been there. I'm saying that to give over your power to anyone else is not fair to the other person. It does not teach you anything nor afford you any growth. Barbara Cave Creek, AZ One damn thing after another…for 57 years! I thought finally my husband and I had made it. I found my soul mate by just envisioning him 20 years ago. I envisioned building our dream home and it became a reality 10 years ago, though pretty much on a shoe string. Then after my husband had a heart attack and we were both laid off, I envisioned us starting our own construction company. Each year we had exponential growth. Then, even though the voices were warning me, the business hit a wall. It was due to many factors, my health, bad decisions, even worse, bad clients.

The stress is overwhelming. Though the business afforded us many things over the years, it began to envelop our whole lives, eating us away. It slowly started to erode my health.

I suffered a grand mal seizure a year ago and many smaller ones since then. Depression set in, exhaustion, etc. We are broke. I know we have the tools to start over, but in your late 50’s it is not so easy.

I watched your show on the Laws of Attraction and have had many emails on the same. I know this! I’ve known this all my life. Wake Up, I told myself. For the first time in my life I feel so despondent. My children, who I’ve supported in so many ways all their lives, are apathetic. I still give and give emotionally with not much in return.

After watching your show, I made the vision board on a Friday as my husband watched me. The next day an old friend and ex-employer of my husband called. He had a job opening for a superintendent. Of course, my husband wanted to give it to his brother! Ugh, we need this so badly! I don’t want to be selfish, but wake up, mister. In his defence, we are always giving, never taking.

Right now he is watching the show. He also has the power to do this. I know this setback we have is to make us stop this chaos we have created before it kills us. What good is this business we have if it will only put us in the grave?

I want my life back, I want my health back. I don’t want to win a lottery or have millions of dollars, never did. I want peace, health, happiness. I want to be able to express myself for the good. I want to be able to impart my knowledge, my ancient knowledge, to others. I have power that I have surpressed for many years to help others.

To me, to work with children in a peaceful setting teaching English in Italy, would be wonderful. Maybe I’m idealistic.

But right now I don’t even have the money to get through the next month.

Women have power. Women know what is right from wrong. But it is surpressed from the time they are little. It is so sad. They seem to think the answers are from the opposite sex. I’m not saying that I dislike men, I’ve been there. I’m saying that to give over your power to anyone else is not fair to the other person. It does not teach you anything nor afford you any growth.

Barbara
Cave Creek, AZ

]]> By: Lesli http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-420 Lesli Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:14:01 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-420 I am always amazed at how whatever I'm feeling, good or bad, if I put a little thought into changing, I'm led somewhere that makes me feel better. That makes no sense. I can't explain it. At any rate, I picked up Martha's book, Finding Your Own North Star, after starting it several months ago and then misplacing it. I found it in my laptop bag from a ski trip and have been toting it around in my truck for 2 weeks now, still not starting it again. The past two weeks have been so incredibly stressful. This morning was horrible because I changed my pants at least 4 times b/c I feel so fat and UGH!!!! But I am at my office alone today to give an exam to students--so I finally picked up the book and brought inside with me and decided to read while the students did their tests. Immediately I felt better. The students are gone now and I decided I would check out Martha's site. I first clicked on her schedule and was reminded that she is on Oprah today--where I first saw her. Then I click over to the Blog link and scan through the topics and read this one--wow--just right there and one line says it all to me: "Take turtle steps. Making major life changes (starting a business, looking for a life partner, cleaning up financial chaos) can bring up a tremendous amount of overwhelm and panic. If you try to tackle the whole thing, you will most likely end up on the floor of your bedroom in the fetal position." HELLO????? Of course, as always and because I'm a self-proclaimed over-achiever, I'm trying to find a new job, move in a month, get out of a financial mess, AND I'm worrying over my weight? Good grief....one thing at a time, LTP (my initials)....so THANK YOU everyone just for having your comments on here for me to come across, for making me realize I'm not the only person in the world going through stress, and that I can do this--even if it's slower than a turtle. There is no deadline...I have to keep telling myself that! I am always amazed at how whatever I’m feeling, good or bad, if I put a little thought into changing, I’m led somewhere that makes me feel better. That makes no sense. I can’t explain it. At any rate, I picked up Martha’s book, Finding Your Own North Star, after starting it several months ago and then misplacing it. I found it in my laptop bag from a ski trip and have been toting it around in my truck for 2 weeks now, still not starting it again. The past two weeks have been so incredibly stressful. This morning was horrible because I changed my pants at least 4 times b/c I feel so fat and UGH!!!! But I am at my office alone today to give an exam to students–so I finally picked up the book and brought inside with me and decided to read while the students did their tests. Immediately I felt better. The students are gone now and I decided I would check out Martha’s site. I first clicked on her schedule and was reminded that she is on Oprah today–where I first saw her. Then I click over to the Blog link and scan through the topics and read this one–wow–just right there and one line says it all to me: “Take turtle steps. Making major life changes (starting a business, looking for a life partner, cleaning up financial chaos) can bring up a tremendous amount of overwhelm and panic. If you try to tackle the whole thing, you will most likely end up on the floor of your bedroom in the fetal position.” HELLO????? Of course, as always and because I’m a self-proclaimed over-achiever, I’m trying to find a new job, move in a month, get out of a financial mess, AND I’m worrying over my weight? Good grief….one thing at a time, LTP (my initials)….so THANK YOU everyone just for having your comments on here for me to come across, for making me realize I’m not the only person in the world going through stress, and that I can do this–even if it’s slower than a turtle. There is no deadline…I have to keep telling myself that!

]]> By: Christine http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-324 Christine Thu, 08 May 2008 21:29:11 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-324 I'm new to this blog - I stumbled across it looking for something entirely different. I guess I can chalk-up this particular left turn to serendipity, as I benefited greatly from the post. I'm in the middle of an assertive-reinvent-myself moment and about every six seconds or so (but who's counting) I question some of the changes I am initiating. I have been terribly unhappy with my geography for some time now, and moving is an anxiety point for me. So, stuck I have been (says Yoda). That situation is about to change and a move is on the horizon. In other words, my world is about to be turned upside down. Your post reminded me that the temporary cost of discomfort is well worth the eventual payout of mental and spiritual peace. Thanks - I needed that. I’m new to this blog – I stumbled across it looking for something entirely different. I guess I can chalk-up this particular left turn to serendipity, as I benefited greatly from the post. I’m in the middle of an assertive-reinvent-myself moment and about every six seconds or so (but who’s counting) I question some of the changes I am initiating. I have been terribly unhappy with my geography for some time now, and moving is an anxiety point for me. So, stuck I have been (says Yoda). That situation is about to change and a move is on the horizon. In other words, my world is about to be turned upside down. Your post reminded me that the temporary cost of discomfort is well worth the eventual payout of mental and spiritual peace. Thanks – I needed that.

]]> By: Susan Hyatt http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-312 Susan Hyatt Wed, 07 May 2008 02:22:00 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-312 I loved reading this blog! Pam Slim, you are a master. Beatrice....you are right for sure. You can want what you want, and create the life you want. I loved reading this blog! Pam Slim, you are a master. Beatrice….you are right for sure. You can want what you want, and create the life you want.

]]> By: Beatrice http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-310 Beatrice Tue, 06 May 2008 20:07:47 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-310 Number one, thank you all for your stories and encouragement especially Pam who listened when I got choked up explaining that a Disney robot made me cry in front of my daughter. A thought, as silly as it sounds, just occurred to me and I just want confirmation that I'm not insane. I'm allowed to want what I want - what I want in my heart, right? For instance, where I want to live, what the house looks like, how comfortable it is, I want to share my life with a man, a good man who wants me, I want a great job that fulfills me, I want adventures like sailing on a tall ship and learning photography. I swear to God, nearly everyone I know keeps telling me I'm unreasonable, I shouldn't want to have the exact life I want and it just occurred to me how ridiculous it sounds to advise someone not to go after the life they want. I know this sounds so elementary but when you're raised by people who never believed you could have the life you want, it's hard to get past that. And I just realized I really do have a right to have the life I want, I don't think I ever really believed that before. Wow! I'm right, right? Thanks again, Beatrice Number one, thank you all for your stories and encouragement especially Pam who listened when I got choked up explaining that a Disney robot made me cry in front of my daughter. A thought, as silly as it sounds, just occurred to me and I just want confirmation that I’m not insane. I’m allowed to want what I want – what I want in my heart, right? For instance, where I want to live, what the house looks like, how comfortable it is, I want to share my life with a man, a good man who wants me, I want a great job that fulfills me, I want adventures like sailing on a tall ship and learning photography. I swear to God, nearly everyone I know keeps telling me I’m unreasonable, I shouldn’t want to have the exact life I want and it just occurred to me how ridiculous it sounds to advise someone not to go after the life they want. I know this sounds so elementary but when you’re raised by people who never believed you could have the life you want, it’s hard to get past that. And I just realized I really do have a right to have the life I want, I don’t think I ever really believed that before. Wow! I’m right, right? Thanks again, Beatrice

]]> By: Vicki Flaugher http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-308 Vicki Flaugher Tue, 06 May 2008 15:11:37 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-308 I too went through a life crisis like the Disney meltdown only opposite. I was watching "Beaches" and I mentally knew it was a very sad movie and I should be crying but I wasn't---I didn't feel a thing. I made a declaration that moment to feel everything, to no longer run away from my true self, and it caused me to be horribly sick for the next week. Those pent up emotions literally laid me out. At the end of it all, I got back in touch with my soul and my heart. I left my high pressure corporate job that was killing me and my verbally abusive marriage. I made it through it. I got free. Now, I work for myself, have a wonderful amazing man, and I am happy. To me, it goes to show that Life offers us such amazing chances for change when we are ready for it. I am grateful for my own revelation and I am also thankful that you have written to eloquently about how we can all manage our own. Thanks! Vicki Flaugher I too went through a life crisis like the Disney meltdown only opposite. I was watching “Beaches” and I mentally knew it was a very sad movie and I should be crying but I wasn’t—I didn’t feel a thing. I made a declaration that moment to feel everything, to no longer run away from my true self, and it caused me to be horribly sick for the next week. Those pent up emotions literally laid me out.

At the end of it all, I got back in touch with my soul and my heart. I left my high pressure corporate job that was killing me and my verbally abusive marriage. I made it through it. I got free.

Now, I work for myself, have a wonderful amazing man, and I am happy. To me, it goes to show that Life offers us such amazing chances for change when we are ready for it. I am grateful for my own revelation and I am also thankful that you have written to eloquently about how we can all manage our own. Thanks!
Vicki Flaugher

]]> By: Sheryl Jones http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-285 Sheryl Jones Sun, 04 May 2008 00:17:22 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-285 Pam, Loved the Blog. It's amazing how help comes when you reach out for it. Most of us think we should have the "perfect" life when in reality we don't know what that means or how to achieve it. That's why working with a Life Coach is an invaluable experience. I believe that our deepest pain leads us to our greatest achievements which makes the Ring of Fire a wonderful experience once you're brave enough to go through it. I wish her all the best in her quest to love Beatrice knowing that this love will magically bring her the ideal life partner. Pam,

Loved the Blog. It’s amazing how help comes when you reach out for it. Most of us think we should have the “perfect” life when in reality we don’t know what that means or how to achieve it. That’s why working with a Life Coach is an invaluable experience. I believe that our deepest pain leads us to our greatest achievements which makes the Ring of Fire a wonderful experience once you’re brave enough to go through it. I wish her all the best in her quest to love Beatrice knowing that this love will magically bring her the ideal life partner.

]]> By: admin http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-283 admin Sat, 03 May 2008 21:30:16 +0000 http://marthabeck.com/blog/?p=70#comment-283 I'm glad Mark! We all need this kind of support at one time or another. I am so glad it reached you when you needed it. Take good care, and thanks for reading! -Pam I’m glad Mark!

We all need this kind of support at one time or another. I am so glad it reached you when you needed it.

Take good care, and thanks for reading!

-Pam

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