Bewildered^TM

Most of us are plagued with the fear that we’re not doing enough—it’s practically the fuel our culture runs on. We’re pressured to constantly do more and more, and we’re taught that suffering is necessary for success. 

But where is [...]

In this BeWild Files episode of Bewildered, Martha and Ro answer a question from listener Kathryn about how to live a balanced life each day instead of bouncing between extremes.

While our culture demands high-level productivity all year round, the [...]

Martha and Ro are doing something completely different for this episode of Bewildered, teaming up with their friends Eric Zimmer and Ginny Gay from The One You Feed podcast. 

Tune in as they talk about what drags you into the [...]

When it comes to the topic of jobs, the culture has a lot to say—and all of it is scary. There’s a strict path we’re expected to follow, which we’ve been led to believe is the only logical way.

In [...]

In this episode of Bewildered, Martha and Ro answer a question from listener Josephine, who’s trying to understand and overcome her resistance to doing things that are good for her.

The culture tells us that if something is good for [...]

In this episode of Bewildered, Martha and Ro talk about drift patterns, the cultural currents we can get stuck in that could be carrying us far away from our true nature.

One function of cultural patterns is to “save” us [...]

It’s another BeWild Files episode of Bewildered, and Martha and Ro are answering a question from listener Gazit, who’s trying to co-parent with a difficult ex, and the experience does not feel joyful or authentic.

Martha says when trying to [...]

There will always be hard things we have to do in life. That’s just a given. So how do we go about doing them without suffering? 

Martha and Rowan say the key is freedom, and in this episode of Bewildered [...]

In this episode of Bewildered, Martha and Rowan are talking all about emotional energy—the moods, feelings, or intentions that come across without any words or physical action.

This kind of energy can be a powerful teacher and director of the [...]

Have you ever bravely shared your authentic self, only to agonize over it later thinking you shared too much?

We’ve all been there. It’s what Brené Brown calls a ‘vulnerability hangover,” and Martha and Ro are taking a deep dive [...]

Our culture teaches us that we should jam as many things as possible into our days, and many of us learn to equate success with how many things we’ve checked off our to-do lists or how much stuff we’ve [...]

Do you enjoy setting goals but have a harder time reaching them?

In this episode of Bewildered, Martha and Ro talk about how to travel from where we are in life to where we want to be—and how our cultural [...]

Procrastination. We’ve all been there. 

In this episode of Bewildered, Martha and Ro explore why we procrastinate (hint: cultural conditioning strikes again) and how we can find our way out of it by listening to—and negotiating with—the wild parts of [...]

Many of us buy into the cultural idea that there is only one way to parent, and if we do it correctly, things will turn out okay, and everyone will approve of us. But when grown children leave home, [...]

Can we be free from the culture if we still use language? That’s the question Martha and Ro discuss in this episode of Bewildered. While we are all encased in the language we learned as children, when we learn [...]

Blowing up your life—why such violent imagery?

Martha and Rowan say it’s because the culture is so powerful you need an explosion to break out of it! 

On this BeWild Files episode of Bewildered, they talk about making the decision to [...]

The culture believes there’s always a single right choice, and if you don’t make that right choice, you could end up wasting your whole life. So is it any wonder a lot of us freeze in panic when faced [...]

Martha and Ro are back with another BeWild Files episode of Bewildered to discuss things that YOU, their listeners, are trying to figure out.

This episode is all about codependency—sacrificing your own needs for those of someone else—behavior that can [...]

Our culture stresses that we should never, ever give up on anything, no matter what the cost to our happiness or health. Yet our bodies have a way of telling us when something isn’t right—first in a whisper but [...]

Martha and Rowan have a very special guest on this episode of Bewildered—the incredible Elizabeth Gilbert! 

The bestselling author of EAT PRAY LOVE joins Martha and Ro to discuss the question: Why is our culture so hostile toward women who [...]