Spring Cleaning: Walk Away Clutter

I’m one of those people who gradually accumulate possessions until their living spaces begin to feel stuffed up. Folks like me sustain an ongoing attempt to spring clean, but something in us always protests. It makes us cling to possessions we don’t need, hesitate before discarding things, and set discouragingly ambitious rules about how de-cluttering should happen. If you’re one of us, perhaps you should consult a doctor. Happily, I’m sort of a doctor (I have a PhD), and through extensive experimentation (cleaning my own house), I’ve arrived at a simple, effective clutter cure I call “Walk-Out Therapy.” It will help you make your home a peaceful space where you can thrive.

Diagnosis: Domestic Stuffiness

The tendency to overstuff our homes is an inherited condition that evolved when living circumstances were harsh. One of my great-grandfathers supported 13 children on a wooden shoemaker’s income; a great-grandmother on my father’s side of the family survived by gleaning wool left on thorn trees by passing sheep and knitting it into socks for cowboys. My point is not that I come from people obsessed with footwear but that just a few generations back, most folks had almost nothing. We’re programmed to be pack rats—to hoard, not jettison—our possessions. Add to that the unprecedented wealth of modern society, and you get an epidemic of clogged living spaces.

The obvious de-cluttering solution is to throw out things the moment you no longer need them. Easy, right? Wrong. Your inner pack rat won’t stand for it. “But I can still wear that!” it squeals as you consider discarding a 20-year-old jacket with shoulder pads. You feel an intensely visceral clutching anxiety that won’t abate until you hang the unsightly garment back in your overstuffed closet.

So, the first step to a clutter cure is to write down your favorite pack-rat phrases. My clients’ top three are: “I have to go through those,” “Someone could use that,” and “But I need it!” Unless you use the object in question at least once a year, such righteous exclamations are actually symptoms of dysfunction. Obeying these protests will keep you overstuffed and off balance forever.

Instead, use your powers of analysis to outwit the primitive logic of these phrases. When I ask clients what they long for, the most common responses are “peace,” “space,” and “freedom.” Clutter keeps us from achieving these goals, and we spend hundreds of thousands of dollars buying larger homes. Empty space is more valuable—psychologically and physically—than almost any object.

With this in mind, walk into any room of your home and focus on 10 random objects. As you consider each, ask yourself (1) Do I truly need it? (2) Do I truly adore it? (3) Would I trade inner peace for this? The answers can help curb your pack-rat impulses, allowing you to clear out and move on. 

Treatment: Walk Away Clutter

Many of my clients have grandiose delusions about how to dispose of their excess stuff. “I’m trying to get bags ready for Goodwill,” they’ll say, “but I get distracted.” Or, “I need to hold a garage sale but can’t find the energy.” Believing you must donate or sell your clutter is another relic of the days when people suffered from scarcity. The poor aren’t a junkyard substitute. I’ve tried to donate broken or ugly castoffs, only to have Goodwill—quite rightly—reject them. Give away items only if they are in good condition. Hold garage sales only if you love them. And stop waiting for that unscheduled weekend to de-clutter your home—it ain’t coming. Instead, proceed straight to the cure.

A walk-out can begin the minute you realize that certain possessions aren’t worth your space, money, or inner peace. After your 10-item evaluation, put two unnecessary objects near your door each day. Every time you leave your home, pick up one item, preferably two. Drop them into the first public trash can you pass (if you’re driving, find a waste receptacle at your destination). The idea is to get items out of your house irrevocably, preventing “trasher’s remorse.” Do not wait to de-clutter in one big fell swoop. Do not ponder or pause. Evaluate, grab, walk out, discard, and repeat. (Although you should avoid walking out someone’s personal possessions without asking first.)

This month, commit to walking out at least two items a day. At first, your inner pack rat will resist. Start with objects that will cause you the least objection (your cat’s disintegrating catnip mouse, the nearly dead houseplant), then move on to more challenging items: the unreadable book, the never-used salad spinner, and, finally, the expensive but atrocious jacket.

Very soon, like any good medicine, the walk-out will make you feel better. It eventually becomes quite intoxicating. I love the slightly naughty thrill that comes from tossing an object, followed by the delicious sensation of my space—and my life—opening up. Walking out your junk is habit-forming. It never loses its power to please, which is more than you can say for most physical possessions.

The final benefit of Walk-Out Therapy is its low level of side effects. The pack-rat part of you will tolerate gradual de-cluttering much better than major surgery. Your loved ones, too, will let go of excess stuff more easily when the removal is slow and steady; they’ll notice your home’s increasing spaciousness without missing the chipped mug or the ancient bowling trophy. So reclaim your home. Walk out your clutter, pushing through resistance and inviting the rush. Then sit back, feel the openness, and breathe, breathe, breathe. 

Comments

  1. says

    A friend of mine came over today to look at my living room and rolled up my rug. Yeah, I really don’t need it. I was glad to find your site, since your columns are the principle reasons I buy Oprah magazine.

  2. says

    I also find my powers of analysis heightened by a visual image. Take a photo of a room, as if you were putting your house on the market. Now look at those photos and things will jump out at you, much more so than when you wander about the room. After doing this, I noticed all sorts of items that were taking up space and not adding anything to the room. I love the public trash can idea! Because I think I have been guilty of buying something of my own back from Goodwill.

  3. says

    As usual, you make so much sense. What a great idea! And we have public receptacles for clothes and shoes here, which are collected and sent to third world countries. Perfect…

    Thanks, Martha!

  4. Kate says

    Great excuse-buster: everyone can do a little at a time – but not everything can be thrown away – for example: old paint is considered a hazardous waste and needs to be disposed of at a hazardous waste center rather than thrown away. Google your local hazardous waste center for a list of these items.

  5. says

    Seems like we collect Stuff the same way our body wants to collect fat…curious.
    Change by small actions, small steps is the best way to tiptoe around our sleeping Lizard, right?
    Thanks Martha.

  6. Laura says

    It’s paper that i seem to collect– clippings, articles, things i’ve written, lists, kids’ artwork, oh,even the “bringing home baby” info i got when my son was born 18 years ago. I do not know how to organize this stuff, and magazines never seem to address this particular kind of clutter. I have a lot of magazines too. I’m perfectly capable of tossing the old computer printer, but i may never be able to get rid of old greeting cards. Halp!

  7. Jolie says

    Rather than throwing in the trash and contributing to the landfill, drop it off at a used store. i keep a bag by the door and when its full, i drop it at the nearest used store. Some will even pick it up for you.

  8. Corinne says

    It’s worrying that you advise people to throw objects away into public trash cans. Here in Europe, for example, that’s not possible, as they have to be taken to the community recycling center. And you have to be very careful with hazardous materials like old paint supplies, for example, and dispose of them correctly. Most of us donate to our local charity shops, too, which helps a lot of people.

  9. says

    As a Professional Organizer and Productivity Consultant, I practice what I advise my clients; however, I did recently donate a 20-year-old jacket with big shoulder pads. The fabric is beautiful and I convinced myself that it was timeless but the last time I wore it I realized how ridiculous I looked.

    I, too, advocate donating over tossing stuff in the trash. If it’s torn, stained, broken or missing pieces, toss it. Otherwise, someone else can find a use for it, even if that use is as a costume or craft material.

  10. says

    Why do we surround ourselves with so much clutter? I believe it is a comfort thing, a bit like hoarding food for the winter. However when we have a good clear out of “stuff” we feel so much better.

    I laugh at myself when I read Lee Child’s Jack Reacher books, the character is so anti possession, yet I keep copies of his books that I will probably never read again.

    I vote for Jack Reacher being the world’s top de-clutterer!!!

    Now where did I put the mouse, it was here on top of the paper just a minute ago?

  11. Linda Visser says

    Martha, you are my hero. I can’t tell you how much I love you and your amazing wisdom. I think you can read my mind. You always say just what I need to hear.
    THANK YOU SO MUCH!

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