A bunch of us coaches gathered recently to run workshops for some corporate friends (you know who you are, folks, and it was a joy to have you here). Afterward we gathered in a circle under a big tree to share everything we’d learned from our coaching. We got fixated on the concept of “village building.”
We’re living in the time of gathering, when individualism—summed up in the phrase “self help”—doesn’t work as well as helping one another. Villages are forming within larger societies through long-distance travel and communication. For instance, I think of my website and social media platforms as a village where you all can meet, communicate, and offer mutual support.
So how do you build a village that serves and helps you? We ended up concluding that there are four components. (For you coaches, these phases map to the four squares of change.) First, a village must help each person live his or her best destiny (we call this “coaching”). Second, we need a sense of purpose and numinous meaning (we coaches call this “the woo woo.”). Third, we need common endeavor—shared acts of pragmatic service (Horse coaching, anyone?). Fourth, we need chances to share abundance, celebrate, and maximize joy (Welcome to the meet ‘n’ greet, tribemates!).
If you’re not a coach and don’t yet have a village, here’s how to get one: live in absolute integrity. As we “Integrity Cleanse” folks are learning, being absolutely honest tends to repel people who don’t like your true self and attract those who do. Integrity will always take you to the village where you’ll thrive best.
We coaches got very excited about this under the big tree at the ranch. Then, when we drove to town, we saw this weird little sign in the middle of nowhere that said, “Village Building Workshops.” Always nice to get a sign. So welcome to our village! I hope you stay, but if you don’t, I urge you to go out and build a village of your own.