Coach 4 2day – Trust After Hurt

In this video blog, I address how you can learn to trust someone after you’ve been hurt.

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  1. B
    B says:


    I like you and just recently started receiving your Daily Quotes.

    Now, after viewing today’s video…..I really, really like you!!!

    I have been struggling for some time (a very long time actually!) on how to deal with trusting someone (mother!) who I continually get hurt by. To date, the only way I have been able to have deal with this has been to put physical distance and limit my time with her. As you and I know, this is only a band-aid. Your advice & knowlege have given me some new tools to work with. The biggest thing I believe is the ‘re-framing’ of the trust: To trust that this is who she is & this is who will show up in our relationship. “Going in” knowing that this is what it is instead of “coming out” being upset about what it isn’t. It’s looking at the same situation but from a different perspective/angle. At this time, I don’t know how

    • Sandra Schlicht
      Sandra Schlicht says:

      Reminds me of a quote from Angela mayo
      ” When people show you who they are the first time, believe them.”

  2. Meghan
    Meghan says:

    Martha, you are brilliant and beautiful and I am so happy I met you even though I’ve never met you. You continue to offer me such valuable insights, in ways that are digestible and often very funny. I am so grateful. This one arrived just in time for me and is so applicable, I’m eating it right up. Thank you thank you thank you for being your wise, wonderful self!

  3. Mei
    Mei says:

    So funny…it is the last of female months as my name is pronounce May.

    I like to believe that people start out in a relationship with me with an “A” grade, but I do have reservations of trusting them with my heart. In short, I am unsure in how trusting I am to my own ability to discern what is best for me.

    Do you have any ideas or questions I should ask myself instead of thinking “oh wow, they are great or oh crap, they are horrible and I need get them out of the my life?”

  4. deb
    deb says:

    Wow,, did I need this… my daughter and her husband have borrowed money over the last few years.. never paying it back… I find it hard to hate or be mad at them.. but it was really taking a toll on my feelings toward them,,, anger more than anything.. could not get it off of my mind… now i know how to handle it.. thanks so much.. i feel sooo much better… and no more so called loans either…

  5. Dani Hoefer
    Dani Hoefer says:

    Martha-Hve been taking your telecourse on the wild new world and I can count on your daily inspiration to be spot on the issues in my life 4 days out of five. Go Team! And thank you. Dani

  6. HeleneMarie
    HeleneMarie says:

    Thank you, Martha! Brilliant advice – as always. This will ensure we ‘follow our Heart’ instead of ‘following our hope’. So often the poison snakes in our life, whether they be a spouse, family member or colleague, manage to convince us in to trusting them again – trusting them with our Heart and Soul – only to realise that they had not suddenly changed by some miracle in to trust-worthy beings overnight as we had hoped for. When we ‘follow our Heart’, with your advice, Martha, it is impossible to fall in to the trap of ‘following our hope’. We can then shower them with Love from a safe distance – perhaps from our preferrred snake-free zone 🙂 With Love from HeleneMarie x

  7. Christy Robb
    Christy Robb says:

    What a wonderful way to look at trust. This empowers and enables us to remain less jaded and fearful ourselves, based on hurt from others, but take on a new lens for understanding and interacting with different people. Helps us to keep loving and keep moving! Thank you for this video, Martha.

  8. Ani Bell
    Ani Bell says:

    My family is chock full of poisonous snakes! As a result, I spend as little time as I can with them, live a long way away from them, have almost zero contact with them, etc. However, I'm adding to my list of to-do's, that I envision them in their happiest of happy zones, that I make the effort to remember good things about them, & that I know none of the hurt I've felt in connection with them was personal. They were doing their best at the time, as was I. When they can do better, perhaps they will. Until then, I surround myself with people who are capable/willing to be good to me. Thanks for the timely reminder, Martha!

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